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There is no such thing as people getting married and becoming happy. There is, however, a thing where TWO HAPPY people get married and bring their happiness into their relationship.
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When people are insecure about their life, not satisfied with what they have, and not sure where they are heading, finding love and getting married can be a temporary patch that will give them a reason to keep on going and to be happy. Their partner, then, becomes the reason for their overall feeling of satisfaction with life.
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When their love evolves into a different form, passion transforms into closeness and emotional intimacy. To balance these new feelings (as everything in life needs a balance), separation and personal space are also needed in order to recharge one’s own batteries. It can be in a form of work we do, hobbies we have, spending time with our relatives, friends, etc.
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But when taking time apart happens, that partner who sees this relationship as a source of his/her happiness, begins to feel ignored, unsatisfied, and left behind. From that point on, it will only be getting worse.
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It’s way too big of responsibility to make and keep someone happy, and such codependent marriage will never work or to be called “happy”.
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What’s truly needed before going into a marriage so that it will truly be happy, is to know who are we in life, what we want, how to make ourselves fulfilled, and, therefore, bringing those qualities to share with another within the romantic relationship.
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Indeed, we all experience issues and struggles once in a while, where help of our partners is truly needed. And it’s crucial for them to give that help to us. But it shouldn’t be their responsibility to carry us on their shoulders until the rest of our lives together; then, it may not be as long as expected.
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And, I love you.