SINCE.life

Independence vs. codependency.. any other options?….

When we look at any relationship in our own life or lives of others, often we may define it as follows; the “bad” one, aka codependent and the “good” one, aka independent. 
While independence is appreciated greatly in our society today, we must be able to use it wisely, otherwise, we may become too wild for anyone to ever enter our life. And in some cases, we end up being ignorant or even selfish, which causes nothing but harm to everyone around. 
Any relationship we encounter is a foundation of our humanness. And there should always be an exchange of energy; from us to others and from others to us. .In nature and in the universe, everything must maintain a perfect balance in order to functions well; it’s the giving and the receiving process. And the relationships are no different. 
But on the other hand, relying too much and being unable to make any decisions on our own can bring us to even more damage; the lack of personal power and victimization through manipulation. Remember that only manipulative people would want to take a part in a codependent relationship. 
They are those who thrive on superiority but are deeply insecure; they need to monitor and control someone in order to feel at least a bit better about their own pathetic existence. Such people are energetic vampires and you can just feel them around you..
Any healthy human relationships must be built upon INTERDEPENDENCE. There are certain things that others will be able to share with us and we, in return, will be able to share with them. That’s the art of any stable and conscious human bond; to enter the flow of this powerful process of exchange. 
Then there will always be trust, love (internal and external), self-esteem, grounding, reliance, support. And at the same time, our own happiness and fulfillment will not depend upon anyone’s opinions, words, or actions..
And, I love you!